Deep Inside The Sluts

slut

noun \ˈslət\

Definition of SLUT

1

chiefly British: a slovenly woman

2

a: a promiscuous woman; especially: prostitute b: a saucy girl : minx

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Before we get started, here’s a trailer for a lighthearted cautionary tale about the difference between having a reputation, and living it:

The sheen of “slutwalking” and going topless in public is beginning to fade. A cursory glance at gotopless.org and slutwalktoronto.com, or even a Google search, for both attendance at and frequency of recent and coming related events will attest to this. But the mantra of these movements — that women should feel free to cavort in public in any state of dress or undress they choose without the world drawing any particular conclusions about them based on these choices — is still strong, and maybe even gaining ground in the public consciousness.

Whatever our short term reaction to the sensationalist means of these movements, the factors behind them, both factual and emotional, deserve to be acknowledged and respected. To do otherwise plunges critics headfirst into the same murky waters of naivete’ and delusion wherein the activists are accused of frolicking. In truth, shame is the domain of all of us eventually. Or, as my father has told me many times, “Just remember, son: every time you point your finger at someone else, you have three pointing right back at you.”

The fact is, nearly one out of every five women in the United States will be sexually assaulted in her lifetime. These victims of sexual assault are not nameless. They are 28,000,000 of our mothers, sisters, friends, girlfriends, fiancées, wives, daughters and granddaughters. That’s the equivalent of the combined populations of Texas and Oklahoma! They play, learn, work, shop, worship, vote, celebrate and sleep right next to us. All of them want attention, as they should. None of them want to be raped. And that is the battle cry of participants in Slutwalks and “Go Topless Day” events.

Think of it this way: if every day, every fifth woman we saw had either a missing or severely mangled arm due to a ritual and forced attempt by others, successful or unsuccessful, to hack it off with a machete, how would we react? Would we shrug our shoulders and think “that’s a shame,” and move on with our day? Would we wonder what she did to deserve that treatment? Or would we be outraged, heartbroken, and hitting the streets to demand a change in our culture?

Even more provocatively, would we be active in gathering and disseminating the information to women that would minimize their chances of being targeted as the objects of such a horrific act? And, damned be the implications, what if we, as individuals, found ourselves fitting the same demographic profile of ninety percent of the perpetrators of these violent acts of devastating personal and permanent injury?  What if we could relate in some way to those perpetrators? What if we found ourselves, directly or indirectly, complicit in the cultural attitudes that encouraged this national disgrace of a statistic? Would we admit our complicity and commit to change, starting from within, whether we were victims or perpetrators, or even both at some point? This writer contends that we have all “danced with the Devil in the pale moonlight,” and that these issues are more complicated than either critics or activists would like to believe.

These are among the questions we will explore here at Intentious over the next couple of weeks. But, as the old saying goes, “faithful are the wounds of a friend.” As we attempt to speak the truth in love, we, this writer included, are bound to find out something that we saw wrong. Our self images are bound to be challenged. That happens in a healthy family, by the way. That is the nature of love.

Welcome, Beloved.

 

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Author:Brian Howell

Very serious about very few things, and infuriatingly casual about everything else. ADD before ADD was cool. Big on relationships; small on stuff. I'm dispositionally a typical artist in the best and the worst of ways. I love debating. I hate fighting. And at the rate I'm growing up, I'll need about 120 years to complete the life most others do in 80. But that's ok; God knows His plans for me. Also at American Parser, my own blog. Google it.

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15 Comments on “Deep Inside The Sluts”

  1. gwallan
    February 2, 2013 at 8:47 am #

    Every man should attend their local slutwalk. They should take a camera and a notebook. Get photos and, where possible, names – for those are the women they would be well advised to avoid like the plague.

    • February 2, 2013 at 10:04 am #

      As should every woman go, to find out which men to avoid.

      • gwallan
        February 2, 2013 at 2:40 pm #

        Now come on Brian, surely you can do better than that.

  2. February 2, 2013 at 4:30 pm #

    Off-topic a bit, but my god I loved Emma Stone in Easy-A. What a hottie!

    • February 2, 2013 at 10:01 pm #

      She was kind of hard not to watch, wasn’t she?

      • gwallan
        February 3, 2013 at 9:07 pm #

        So your not above a little bit of leering, Brian? The slutwalkers will have you for eye rape if you’re not careful.

        By the way “ninety percent of the perpetrators” are not male. Your link there is useless, doesn’t work. Suggest you look instead at the CDC’s “National Intimate Partner and Sexual Violence Survey” from 2010 with particular reference to the previous twelve months’ figures. You’ve simply accepted an evidentiary basis as provided by the slutwalkers themselves with all it’s inherent hyperbole.

        Regarding your response to my original comment…

        I referred to participants in slutwalk events who I judge by actions which are plain for all to see. Your response implies that any man or boy in the vicinity of a slutwalk event – even innocently – should be considered a predator by said participants. Are you implying all men are rapists?

        • February 5, 2013 at 7:06 am #

          Lighten up, Francis. I was giving a whimsical response to a whimsical comment, not admitting to a thought crime. That said, in my flesh, I’m not above much of anything. Fortunately, I’m not ruled by my flesh quite as much as I used to be.

          I do appreciate you noting the outdated link, and I apologize for not double checking it before submitting it. Although I have updated said link in the original post on my blog, American Parser, from which the article above was derived, only editors can edit published posts on Intentious, so I will leave that up to them.

          I reviewed the document you suggested. It says on page 24 (click on “Full Report” under “Latest Publications & Articles” at http://www.cdc.gov/ViolencePrevention/sexualviolence/index.html) that

          “Most perpetrators of all forms of
          sexual violence against women
          were male. For female rape
          victims, 98.1% reported only male
          perpetrators. Additionally, 92.5% of
          female victims of sexual violence
          other than rape reported only male
          perpetrators. For male victims, the
          sex of the perpetrator varied by
          the type of sexual violence expe-
          rienced. The majority of male rape
          victims (93.3%) reported only male
          perpetrators.”

          I could not find any information related to the sex of perpetrators for the specific previous twelve months covered in the report, but I believe it would be included in the Survey’s lifetime statistics, from which the above quote is taken. I doubt that much about human nature was different in that twelve month period than in, say, the last six thousand years. But I could be wrong.

          To replace the dead link, I chose the U.S. Department of Justice’s 1997 report, “Sex Offenses and Offenders: An Analysis of Data on Rape and Sexual Assault.” You can download it from http://bjs.ojp.usdoj.gov/content/pub/pdf/SOO.PDF. It states on page 5 that

          “Federal statistical series obtaining data
          on arrested or convicted persons 
          Uniform Crime Reports, National Judi-
          cial Reporting Program, and National
          Corrections Reporting Program 
          show a remarkable similarity in the
          characteristics of those categorized
          as rapists: 99 in 100 are male, 6 in 10
          are white, and the average age is the
          early thirties.”

          Of course, this last quote doesn’t count, since everyone knows that the U.S. Department of Justice is just a propaganda arm for Slutwalk Toronto, and has been for decades now. Maybe I should not, on second thought, accept this inherently hyperbolic reference as my “evidentiary basis.” By the way, what’s the difference between an “evidentiary basis” and “evidence?”

          After reviewing the “National Intimate Partner and Sexual Violence Survey,” though, it’s clear that I owe you an apology. You were right when you said that “ninety percent of perpetrators are not male.” Apparently my number of 90% was irresponsibly low. Please forgive the faux pax.

          But for the record, I did not imply that all men are rapists. I did imply that almost all rapists are men. The loneliest glowing cinder of thought at the bottom of a cold brain prevents confusing one for the other.

          In the future, when making any suggestions to assist me in undergirding my point, would you be kind enough to provide not a link to a portal, but an actual link to the document you reference, and a page number, so that I can receive your support efficiently? This little bit of thoughtfulness would save me valuable time in utilizing your suggestion.

          To return the favor, may I suggest that you review the grammatical difference between “your” and you’re,” as well as the same between “its” and “it’s?” It’s (a contraction of “it is”) the little things that mean a lot, especially if you’re (a contraction of “you are”) wanting your (the possessive form of “you”) intended audience to focus its (the possessive form of “it”) attention on the message rather than the medium. While everyone, myself included, is entitled to a pass on the occasional grammatical mistake, yours were numerous for such a short post. I didn’t list them all. I suspect you might just need to slow down when you write for public consumption.

          And may the force of reason and careful internal deliberation be with you.

          • February 6, 2013 at 8:29 pm #

            Dan (below) is perhaps one of those to avoid…

  3. February 6, 2013 at 5:40 pm #

    i’d like to be deep inside a slut any day of the week! #amiright!?

    • February 6, 2013 at 9:55 pm #

      Not really.

      But you know what else you might like? Reading below the title and commenting on the actual content of the article sometime, preferably before you contract AIDS and/or go to prison.

  4. Tia
    May 31, 2013 at 10:59 am #

    “They are 28,000,000 of our mothers, sisters, friends, girlfriends, fiancées, wives, daughters and granddaughters.”

    While I understand what you hope to accomplish, this sentence takes away from your argument. It sends the message that rape (or attempted rape) survivors are only of any value when they are “mothers, sisters, friends, girlfriends, fiancées, wives, daughters and granddaughters.” Which is wholly untrue. If you have to be stirred into compassion, outrage, or action by only imagining that a rape survivor is defined by her connection to society instead of as a human being, then you need to reevaluate your life choices and priorities.

    • June 2, 2013 at 3:48 am #

      Tia, really, thank you for taking the time to comment. The statement I made, I made that way because so many males out there, unfortunately, have a “not in my backyard” attitude when it comes to women. In other words, they don’t mind my sister being Miss July in next month’s Playboy, but it would be wrong for their sister to do such a thing.

      Noting that women are humans should be enough, but it’s not. That rationale hasn’t done much for the 52,000,000 humans aborted in the United States in the last 40 years, now, has it?

      That’s why abortion rights advocates lobby against mandatory sonograms before the decision to have an abortion. When you see that picture on the screen, not just of a human being, but of a human being directly connected to you, you’re more likely to vote for life.

      That’s why I mentioned roles and relationships. There are 3.5 billion women on Earth. In a weak moment, the best man might think, “Hey, what’s one down for my use?” If men can think of a woman as a hole to be plugged, a drop in the ocean, beven a human one, it’s pretty easy for them to act on that thought.

      But what if the human hole is their mother, or their daughter? That realization, for all but the basest of men, gives pause to the moment because it does just what you want, Tia: it humanizes the woman by creating an immediately relatable connection to the man. And when he thinks of the woman as human, that is, related to him, he in turn naturally acts less like an animal, and more human himself.

      I hope that helps explain why I used those examples to demonstrate, in a personal way to the men reading this post, the humanity of every woman. Regardless, though, I still appreciate you chiming in. At the end of the day, it’s still all about respect for one another, right?

  5. June 2, 2013 at 3:58 am #

    I would just say, as an addendum, that the list of womanly roles I gave in the article was intentionally made to include every woman on the planet, reinforcing the point that every woman is valuable, whatever her station in life.

    Also, just to be clear, I know that “beven” is not a word. Yet.

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