Rant: Women, I don’t want to see breastfeeding pics in my Facebook feed!

21-year-old mother Lucy Allen used this photo to educate mothers on nursing but Facebook removed the image. Picture: Lucy Allen  Read more: http://www.news.com.au/technology/aussie-mothers-protest-against-facebook-for-removing-breastfeeding-photos/story-e6frfro0-1226261942485#ixzz2IKcWjea7

21-year-old mother Lucy Allen used this photo to educate mothers on nursing but Facebook removed the image. Picture: Lucy Allen

Sydneysider Lucy Allen, 21, had her Facebook account deactivated for two days in July last year after she posted a photo of herself breastfeeding and pumping milk at the same time.

Allen used the above photo allegedly “to educate mothers on nursing” but Facebook removed the image after one of her friends anonymously reported the image. (Photo Credit: Lucy Allen)

Facebook’s terms of use state that users cannot post content that is hateful, pornographic, contains nudity or incites violence.

It also reserves the right to remove any content that infringes or violates another’s rights or the law. On the issue of breastfeeding images, Facebook stated:

“Facebook is glad that mothers and their families – including many who work at Facebook – use Facebook to share their parenting experiences, including breastfeeding their children,” 

“By uploading photos, joining groups, and engaging with different organisations, these families are able to share and connect on a very important topic, and we are thrilled they are using Facebook to do so.

“On some occasions, breastfeeding photos contain nudity – for example an exposed breast that is not being used for feeding – and therefore violate our terms. When such photos are reported to us and are found to violate our policies, the person who posted the photo is contacted, and the photos are removed.”

Despite this reasonable limitation, South Australia’s Minister for the Status of Women Gail Gago said today that women should be able to post pictures of themselves breastfeeding their children on Facebook.

“Breastfeeding your baby is a normal and natural thing to do,” Ms Gago said.

“There is no valid reason for any social media network to ban legitimate pictures posted by women of themselves breastfeeding their own children.”

The ban has prompted angry mums to organise a protest at Facebook’s Australian offices tomorrow.

Read more: Women should be able to post breastfeeding pics on Facebook, says Gail Gago | Information, Gadgets, Mobile Phones News.

There’s nothing wrong with breastfeeding, and I don’t think breasts are offensive. There is also nothing sexual about someone breastfeeding, just like there’s nothing wrong with a picture of a baby vomiting or a man urinating, or a child showering… until you post it online for everyone to see. Once in the realm of Facebook, these “everyday, totally normal things to do” aren’t so appropriate. Here’s why:

I don’t believe I’m oppressing mothers if I support Facebook for removing pictures of breastfeeding, if they’re reported. Obviously, mums, they’re reported for a reason: because some of your friends don’t fucking want to see it. The care factor is beyond zero. We don’t care about you sticking your tit in an infant’s mouth just like we don’t care that you sit down to pee.

A breastfeeding pic is about as unimportant and unwanted to everyone else, as a photo of you stuffing your own mouth with a hamburger. It’s about as appropriate as showing all your friends how to get that perfect bikini line.

If someone finds it ridiculous that you’d publically share such a private moment, then good on them for reporting it. After all, it’s subjective, isn’t it? Facebook does not belong to you. You either have to abide by all your friend’s standards, or else make your shit private.

There is such a thing as sharing gone too far. In some cases it can be funny. In other cases, it’s truly eye-roll worthy.

This Lucy woman looks about as annoying as that friend who updates their status every time they eat a meal. Sharing to this degree gets you blocked from your friend’s feeds, in my opinion, and will ultimately be the demise of Facebook as more and more people make it the most un-cool place on the planet for the next generation of users. “Mum, you posted WHAT?!”

Ok, so breastfeeding is important to you. Great! Take a picture and share it with your spouse or the few close family members who might care. But don’t share it with me, or any of your 400 other friends. My day is not in any way enhanced by seeing you show me how to get milk out of your tits while sitting on the kitchen floor. Well, unless you’re Karen Alloy. In that case, fire away.

Facebook is a social network for every person you know above the age of 13, it’s not a mother’s education club. At the very least, if you want to post pictures to special interest groups, make a group. I’m sure somewhere out there, there’s a group dedicated to genital piercing education, as well. The fact they’re not protesting outside parliament means they obviously have the understanding that, just maybe, the social Facebook wall isn’t the most appropriate spot for their imagery.

I wish Facebook had the balls to say what they’re really implying: There is personal sharing, and then there is sharing gone too far, well into the realm of “stuff that you should keep private because no one else finds it justified“.

Facebook will continue to ban images that people report. They’re a soon-to-be public company and telling them how to run their website is as appropriate as telling South Australia’s Minister for the Status of Women Gail Gago to butt out and improve how she does her own job instead of making open statements that aren’t actually going to get her anywhere.

End rant.

 

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Author:Andrew Beato

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9 Comments on “Rant: Women, I don’t want to see breastfeeding pics in my Facebook feed!”

  1. James Hill
    February 6, 2012 at 6:37 pm #

    I agree totally. Plenty of bodily functions are totally natural and non sexual, but that doesn’t mean you need to put pictures of them into your facebook feed for friends and family to see. This sort of attention seeking behavior is just a symptom of a sick culture, which is obsessed with the self to the point of narcissism. Never mind that no one has the “right” to post on facebook in the first place, and that facebook admins are responding to user complaints when they remove these pictures, Lucy and countless unhinged catladies like her will froth at the mouth at the “injustice” perpetrated here by facebook. They’re also probably the first to jump and up down and scream for administrators to ban content they personally deem offensive.

  2. mensvoices
    February 7, 2012 at 12:05 am #

    You’re right. This is pure entitlement on the part of the mothers, if not outright narcissism. No, lady, we are not impressed by your boobs. Put them away.

  3. Saint Just
    February 7, 2012 at 6:15 am #

    That picture is coming out at that kid’s 21st. Reckon he’ll ever live it down?
    I think the main crime of that photo was being as boring and mundane as clipping toe nails.
    Post your ‘extreme breast feeding photos,’ sure. Breast feeding in the back of a moving trailer, or at the top of mount everest. Otherwise, please, please, please don’t be that person.
    Breast feeding your child today will be no different than it was yesterday, with or without photos on Facebook.

  4. Anonymous
    February 9, 2012 at 10:03 am #

    I totally agree with mensvoices, and everyone else for that matter. Its narcissism in the extreme.

    Who does she think she is, millions of women all over the world breastfeed it is not a newly found way of feeding babies she hasnt just invented the wheel.

    Breastfeeding is a personal space thing between mother, baby and family. Dont shove it down our throats via facebook thankyou. And one more thing did anyone notice in the picture, she was sitting on the floor certainly not the most cleanest of areas and she looked liked she could do with some nutrition herself.

  5. Elizabeth
    February 12, 2012 at 5:12 am #

    I am not offended by this photo at all. Everyone will feel differently, but I just think she is using her breasts for what it’s for. We see breasts all the time in popular culture, but i find that as soon as a woman’s breasts are shown feeding her child it’s offensive.

    • February 13, 2012 at 2:46 pm #

      By that argument it should be fine to post public pictures to my friends of my penis urinating. Note that I don’t find it offensive, just, if it’s important to you, it may not be appropriate to showcase to everybody you know, how your breasts operate. It’s not the nudity that’s a problem, it’s the level of sharing and scope of who you share to. For example, would you email this around your workplace? No… it’s not the correct medium. Arguably, neither is Facebook.

  6. March 1, 2012 at 3:41 am #

    hi

  7. May 11, 2012 at 2:23 pm #

    Intentious has just shared our take on the TIME Magazine Breastfeeding cover, we welcome your comments: http://intentious.com/2012/05/11/breastfeeding-pics-its-time-to-exploit-attachment-parenting/

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